Have
you ever thought seriously about that saying “People Come into your life for a
reason, season or a lifetime” and wondered where you fit? We as humans are
mainly focused on ourselves in the relationship and never really think about
how we fit with others or affect them. I know for me I don’t think about it too
much…relationships are just that, right? Nothing more nothing less…
Now
that I have your attention let’s see where this thought takes us, shall we? We
are in all kinds of different relationships throughout our lives. We have our
employers/employees, friendships, crushes, admiring from a far; face it these
are relationships too on an energy level that reaches out and touches someone.
There are also the spousal relationships, parents to kids, aunts, uncles,
cousins, the list goes on and I am sure you get what I mean.
Reason for Relationship
We
humans are a social species by nature. There are times when the relationships
we are in either don’t work, change, grow or become stale and drift apart. Some
friendships can be untouched for many years and then one day you find yourself
thinking about that person and the next thing you know you either get a call,
visit or letter from them and the friendship picks up right where you left off
as if time stood still within it.
Relationships
are a part of the energy that is in us, around us and we’re all connected to
it. You may have sent out a prayer, thought or whatever into the universe for a
need that you have and therefore the reason for the relationship you had, have
or will have. Or perhaps that other person put it out there and you are their
answer. This explains why we have some relationships that are here for just a
little while, long time or forever.
Seasonal Relationship
When a
relationship goes through changes and people drift apart that is usually known
as the seasonal relationship. Where you and that other person needed something
from each other, you needed to teach, learn, grow or share something of you
with them and visa versa. It isn’t always about what that other person can do
for you, but perhaps they needed something from you. The seasonal relationship is about the joy and
peace that you can get or give from the relationship. Be thankful for these
ones, they can be very precious and memorable.
Lifetime Relationship
The
lifetime relationship is about the lessons that you and/or they need to learn
that takes a lifetime to be taught. Here you will discover what you need to do
to have a solid emotional foundation to be a better person, more of what you
were intended to be. Here is where you take what you have learned in this
relationship and use it in all the other areas of your life and within all your
other relationships throughout your life.
So…
Like
energy, people will flow in and out of our lives because like energy we can’t
hold on to them. They will slip through out fingers and we get disconnected. No
one knows why this happens but it does.
There
is a verse in Kenny Rogers’ song, “The Gambler” that makes me think about my
relationships and where I fit in;
“…Know
when to hold them, Know when to fold them, Know when to walk away, and know
when to run…”
We all
could take this verse and perhaps apply it to our lives when it comes to our
relationships, especially in our marriages. This thought, I will leave for
another article.
Personally
I look forward to meeting new people, making new friends and learning more
about myself through these relationships. I also enjoy spending time with my
friends I have now. Whether I am in someone’s life for a day, a month, year or
a lifetime, I hope that I leave a footprint of joy behind.
